What is a perfect run?

Myrecovery-mymotivation.com has recently married.  It was a small ceremony.  The only people attending besides myself were a web designer, my marketing assistant and a photographer.  Honestly, some people were against the wedding since they are related. (They have the same hosting site. I think that is like being cousins.)  However, the merger went through and myrecovery-mymotivation.com has decided to take her husband’s name.  As of March 12, 2012, my first-born blog has become aPerfectRun.com. (applause) Please know that you can still find her on the world-wide web as myrecovery-mymotivation.com. (Who has time to change all their credit cards, SS #, and grocery store bonus cards while your still in the honeymoon phase?)  But, going forward she asks to be referred too as aPerfectRun.  In case you hadn’t noticed, she has also had some major work done.  Not only does the site have new banners, but the layout and site navigation have changed a lot as well.  The site has always been about the content and not “the flash”, but we did try to make it easier to navigate.

So why the name change?  First, it is a lot shorter and easier to remember.  You should see how many different search titles people have used to try to find my website.  The second reason was to try to link my website with the motivational book I hope to get published.  But why “A Perfect Run”?  As readers of my blog know,  before the accident I was an avid runner.  When the accident happened on December 1, 2007, running, along with a lot of other things I loved, were taken away from me.  I have worked very hard to get back many of the things I lost.  Running was one of them that I was told I might not ever get back again.  On November 1, 2011, contrary to a lot of medical doctor’s original opinions, I ran again.  (Original post here.)  I ran only one mile, at a very slow pace, but I was running.  Since that day I haven’t stopped.  Progress has been very slow.  Pain slows me down.  I can’t run outside when it is cold.  I can’t run very far (about 4 miles) and compared to before the accident, I run at a snail’s pace.  Still, I run.

When I first started running again in November, I ran inside on a treadmill.  After a few weeks, I wanted to go outside to run.  I wanted to get in a few outside runs before I tried to run the Turkey Trot 5K on Thanksgiving Day.  The course I chose was only two miles, but it was hilly.  I couldn’t finish the run.  I was so saddened by the whole thing that I thought about quitting.  When a friend asked me the next day how my first outdoor run went I told him,”Oh, it was a perfect run.  I couldn’t even complete a freakin’ two mile loop!”  All he said to me was,  “Maybe you need to re-define your idea of perfect.” and just walked away…

I really think the word “perfect” gets thrown around too much.  “The perfect job”, “The prefect kids”, “The perfect spouse”, “The perfect athlete”, “The perfect body”.  Often times we strive for perfection when we can’t even define it.  Even worse, we let others define it for us.  That was my problem.  I was letting my preconceived ideas of what it meant to be a runner take the joy out of running.  I tell people all the time that they should “find joy in the process”, yet as soon as I had the chance to finally do an activity that I had loved so much before the accident, all I could think about was that I will never be able to do it like I had.  A lot of people have told me that they suffer from the same problem.  “Playing basketball at lunch is really starting to not be fun.” a friend at the YMCA told me one day.  “My 40-year-old body can’t keep up with the young guys.”  “When did we become the old guys?” I asked him.  “At least I can still shoot 3-pointers!” he commented as he walked out of the locker room.  I don’t know what would have been worse for me.  Gradually slowing down as I got older or just waking up one day and not being able to even walk?  At least I can say I got faster over the past four years!

As my agent said to me when I started this new project, “Most people won’t think that you would ever have a perfect run again, yet every time you run it is perfect.”  So, I have decided to let you, the reader, define “perfect” for yourself.  After all, my “perfect” and your “perfect” should be different.  I really don’t want to live up to someone else’s definition.  Especially not my wife’s! ;)

The weather is going to be in the 60′s and 70′s all week in Central PA.  This past weekend all I could think about was running.  (I even got some new shoes.)  With the beginning of daylight savings, I thought I would be able to run outside all week.  It wasn’t meant to be…  On Sunday afternoon I bumped the shin of my bad leg into the side of my car door.  The weak skin split right open and blood started forming pools on my garage floor.  Luckily I have my wound doctor’s cell number.  He met me at his office and stitched me back together.  He wrapped my leg in one of those casts that I spent all last summer wearing in hopes that we can get it to stay closed and heal.  For now, only time will tell if this wound becomes a problem or if the surgery I had in October will allow it to heal quickly.  Either way I won’t be running this week.  I felt kind of sorry for myself Monday when I walked outside at noon.  It was a “perfect” day for a run, exactly the kind of day I had waited for all winter.  Actually, the kind of day I waited for since the accident.  I was feeling very angry.  Finally, I decided to take my own advice and I re-defined “perfect”.  I decided to go to the YMCA to lift weights.  I pushed myself harder than I had in months. I was hell-bent on making the rest of my body pay the price for not being able to run…

Let me know what you think of the new website?  I would love to hear some feedback. We have tried to make it even easier to receive updates when I release new posts.  Simply click on the envelope in the upper right hand corner and my website will walk you through it.  Also, please click on the Like and Share buttons for Facebook and Twitter.  I had 14,000+ visitors last year to my site. A lot of that traffic came because so many of you shared it with your friends and family.  There are a lot of exciting things coming up this spring that I can’t wait to share, so look for posts to come a lot quicker now that the new site is finished.


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What is a perfect run? — 3 Comments

  1. I am new to your site and not even sure how I found it, but it is a nice blog and I love your ‘attitude’ and desire to move forward. My niece severely broke her leg just below the knee she was running a strong man marathon that had many things in it and she jumped over something coming down on her leg wrong and snapping it in four places. She has been in recovery for almost a year now and is walking slowly, she will never run, the tendons, ligaments and nerves were all damaged. She was saying to me “I will never run”… I looked at her and said, “you have a leg and you can walk, that is something to be glad about. It could have been worse”. It is all about perspective.

  2. Sharon,
    I am glad that you found me blog! Thanks for the kind words. Tell your niece that if she wants to “run” again she can. I was told I would never run again and four years later I was able to do it. I don’t run anything like I use to, but I do get to run. If I lost the ability again tomorrow, I would still be thankful that I got to run again. Please let your niece know that I would be more then willing to talk. Also, you are right about what you said about perspective. The tough part is remembering to step back so that you can examine where you are.

    Thanks again for reading!
    God Bless,
    -John

  3. I think that due to your faith and persistence that you have truly been blessed with all that you need for your website because it looks better all of the time. Also look at all of the people you have toched and become friends with since this has happened to you, me included. I am now honored to say you are my friend on Facebook and check your page regularly. Tried to chat one time but you dissappeared(must have taken off running,ha ha !) Nonetheless, you continue to inspire me as I put off getting my other knee replaced. I try to tolerat the pain but cortisone can only work for so long and it isn’t that great for the body. Take care of that cut and listen to God when he tells you to slow down. He didn’t say STOP. I doubt that he could do that , you are very determined!! God Bless, Vicki

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